are you right? or wrong?

Years ago, I was very concerned about being “right”. Now I am not remotely concerned about being wrong, feeling wrong or people thinking I am wrong. Or being right.

I still remember the shock of listening to what John Gray said years ago about letting go of a need to be ‘right’. Have you done his clenched fists exercise? I love that. I just tried to find it online for you to no avail.

I think I saw him do it on Oprah about 15 years ago. The idea is you think about something that’s bothering you and clench your fists rigidly while repeating “I am right” – then attempt to unclench your fists. Have a go now. It’s weirdly difficult to uncurl your control-freaky, angry/frustrated-filled fingers.

Maybe it’s a hangover from school days or a spin on trying to control an unpredictable world but adults seem to have a perverted yearning to be “right”. Children don’t have it so much.

Who cares if you’re “right” or “wrong”? You’re not at school. There is no exam. You will not be punished for being ‘wrong’. Nor get a prize for being ‘right’. {And it’s only you who is defining.}

Maybe you don’t even know you have a need to be right…? Check in with your body and release any muscular tension you find, just quietly.

With your hands relaxed and not clenched in a furious fist, (you’ll notice a surprising number of people walking about with at least one fist clenched) it is so much easier to be flexible, content and be fine with being wrong {but bear in mind, I am often wrong…}.


Image of gorgeousness, “Creative Life” borrowed from Amanda Cherie of hellocherie – buy a print here.

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Comments (3)

  1. 21/05/2011
    Marisol said...

    HI Wildchild,
    I just came to your blog from your etsy site and
    Girl you have won my heart.
    Thank you for this wonderful blog.
    I´m breathing , I´m breathing.
    Oh and by the way my 2 yr. old grandaughter is helping
    me to remember.

  2. 10/07/2011
    muscles for me said...

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  3. 13/07/2011
    rachel awes said...

    i’ve always remembered someone saying it’s more important to be myself than to be right…i’ve also heard it as it is more important to be kind than to be right. i love them both. & i love your graphics & reflections! lovely to visit! xox

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